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WHAT IS IMAGO
RELATIONSHIP THERAPY AND THEORY? |
Imago Relationship Therapy is a form of
couple therapy developed by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., who is the New York Times
best-selling author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples (1988), and Keeping
the Love You Find: A Guide for the Singles (1992). He also co-authored Giving
the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents (1997) with Helen Hunt, M.A., M.L.A., and
together they co-founded the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy in Florida.
Dr. Hendrix has culled, refined, and synthesized data from
many of the major psychological systems, and adding his own genius, he has creatively
expanded on the work of earlier masters. Imago theory, upon which the therapy is
based, provides a foundation for a remarkable process for helping couples heal and grow in
relationship.
Imago Relationship Therapy offers a road map for the journey
from Romantic Love to Reality Love, from an unconscious marriage to a conscious marriage.
"Imago" is a Latin word meaning "image," and in this theory,
refers to an imprinting of the positive and negative traits of our significant childhood
caretakers. This imprint influences the choice of a mate in adult life.
In Imago theory, the bonding of the Romantic Stage connects
couples together to prepare them for the work that lies ahead. Once in a significant
relationship, unfinished business from the past begins to surface, and couples experience
power struggles and impasses. While this is a stage that relationships go through,
it was never meant to be a permanent state. It has been said that, "Getting
stuck in the Power Impasse Stage is like being in labor permanently." The
hidden agenda of committed relationship is to heal from childhood hurts and wounds and
learn new ways to respond to old hurts. Many couples get stuck at this stage and
experience considerable pain because they do not have the knowledge and skills to get
beyond this point. Some opt out of the relationship before understanding the process
for getting beyond the Power Impasse and moving on to Reality Love.
Imago Relationship Therapy provides couples with a process
for moving through the Power Impasse to Reality Love. A key transformation in
relationships is developing and integrating the skill of Intentional Dialogue. The
journey of becoming one's authentic self is an exciting journey waiting to be
discovered. It is our belief that experiencing the intensive 20 hr. Getting the
Love You Want workshop is one of the most powerful ways to make this discovery.
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