What is Unfinished Business In A Relationship

And What Can You Do About It?

Most of our caretakers do the best they can to meet our needs when we are growing up, but many of us do not get all our physical, emotional, and spiritual needs appropriately met.  This is partly due to the fact that our caretakers did not get all of their needs met, and so they could not meet all our needs.  They did the best they could with whatever skills they had..

Once a couple gets beyond the Romantic stage, which is an important bonding time, the unfinished business that each partner brings from childhood begins to surface in the the relationship.  This is a normal process for anyone in a significant serious relationship.  Unfinished business is like the iceberg below the surface.  We are not conscious of it during the Romantic stage, but once we hit the Power impasse it will surface.

Why is this unfinished business surfacing?  It is coming up for the purpose of healing.  However, if we don’t have the skills and tools to deal with this process we end up getting stuck in a power impasse.  When this happens we actually increase the wounding by adding salt to each other’s wounds, creating distance and disconnection rather than becoming healers for each other.

The exciting news is we now understand the dynamics for getting beyond the power impasse stage and for transforming relationships.  If you are interested in taking your relationship to another level, join us for the powerful and transformative workshop “Getting The Love You Want” or call our office for relationship coaching (972-771-9743).